my co-teacher for the video tonight is our group tour director, irina from ukraine. irina, say hi to the guys! this is fantastic. this interview came from a joint conversation we were having about our clients, and how to help them succeed more. some mistakes they are making. we just became very passionate to help fix some things we saw. and i also wanted to encourage some guys, and so i named this topic "why some men go home with empty hands." we've got a lot of great things to talk about on this. it's going to finish very positive at the end. so irina, i'm going to present this. if you don't mind, just reading and adding thoughts.
first of all, let me explain what we're going to talk about tonight. so here is the overview. i'll do the overview and then we'll begin the topic tonight. tonight we're going to talk about these things: we'll discuss how our tours have an eighty percent success rate. okay, how do we define it? we'll talk about that. so, what about the other twenty percent of the guys? they go home with empty hands. why? there are several reasons, and we'll talk about those. their trip may have served a different purpose. or the guys had "know it all" syndrome, which i cannot wait to discuss, because it is one of my peeves!
some of these guys obsess on one woman too soon, or they are chasing fantasies. they are making mistakes, the way they tell their stories. then i will discuss the seven factors for success in international dating. that is the overview for tonight. so we're going to dive into this, and if you don't mind i'm going to start. i'll go first and take control of the screen, and present the pages. let's go through everything. defining our company's success rate. actually i'm probably going to have to tell this story a little bit. then we'll go into the next item.
on this one, i'm going to tell the guys: on average, we say that we define it this way. approximately eighty percent of our clients on a tour will start a new relationship with a lady. when they go back home they're on skype or viber or other communications. these statistics, i got from you. so if you don't mind, i'll read them. then you can tell me a little bit more about how you get this information. maybe the guys can understand this? how you get this information? you told me that in july we had 22 clients. 17 of them started pursuing a lady they met. they've gone home and they're still communicating.
in september we had 23 clients and 18 of them were still pursuing a woman. how do you how do you decide who is in the count, and who is not? where do you get the information? i would like for the guys to understand correctly that these are not married couples. they are not people who are getting married. just people who recently met each other. they would like to continue to develop their communication and their relationship. it should lead to a serious relationship and long lasting love. how do we get to know about that? of course we worry and we care about each of our clients, and we are in communication with their translators.
with many clients, i speak to them personally of course, to help them. and they are very interested in getting news from the talks. how was everything was on the date, or another date? and what was the result of the date, of course. personally, i know about each client, with whom he communicates. and when he leaves ukraine, whom is in his heart. that is why we know for sure about those 17 or 18 guys who really met their ladies. they are in the process of developing that relationship. now that's great! so you guys ought to know, we'll do more to introduce irina and how our system works.
but please understand, she manages the translators. she personally interviews and talks to all the guys via skype. and she gets daily reports from every translator, on how every one of the dates went. plus, we're there all week. so guys are either talking with me, or they're talking with her or a translator. we know what everybody is doing. it's not that difficult. it sounds like a lot to have 23 or 24 clients, but really, we know where everyone is. it's a real number. so now let's talk about the next item. i need move the page here. so, what about the other 20 percent? people inquire about our great success rate. but before explaining further, let me discuss a peeve. i'll say it now, and i won't say it again! because i just want to get it out there.
when people test us, questioning about the other 20 percent, what happened? why did they go home without anyone? did they ever think about asking the other companies, why those have such dismal success rates of any kind? is anybody even coming together? people ask about our 20 percent? they should ask about the 95 percent who get nothing from the competition. ok, i'm finished, i'm not going to say anything more. but let's get real, guys are humans. nobody comes here and signs a contract that guarantees him a wife. there is a human experience here. so, we're going to talk about the human experience. alright. i feel better.
thank you for letting me express my exasperation. mark doesn't like that question, but i do understand. some people have energetic and active minds. they want to know about the results even without trying. and of course, they ask that question, and they want to know beforehand: what happened with him? so would a prospective client be among the 80 percent? or maybe unfortunately he could be among the twenty percent who will need help and leave with nothing. it's impossible to answer that question. what you should do is make your best try. try first of all, and arrange your trip, and listen to our suggestions. be among the 80 percent.
there you go! it's true, it's true. it's much more in your control than you think. and that's the point by the end of the night, you're going to realize. this isn't a lottery. this isn't like picking a card from a deck, and you may or may not? this is so much more in your control than you know, and it's so much more about your own experience. we're actually quite excited to share this knowledge, because you need to see the bigger picture. you need to realize this isn't a lottery, where 20 percent get one outcome and 80 percent another. no, it's all about your journey. so let's talk about your journey. here we go, first point. this is a positive, and i want you to understand.
their trip, for those in the 20 percent, for some of them, their trip served a different purpose. and so one possibility is that she could not be found on this trip, but she will be found on a future one. irina, do you want to discuss that for a moment? of course, when we hold an interview on skype, we try to understand what kind of woman he needs. we try to do our best to invite those women who would make a nice match for him. but of course, we can not control everything. maybe it happens that the right woman was not present on this tour. and it's not a deal breaker. guys should understand that when they come on a tour,
it's a huge experience of dating women, getting to know different ukrainian women particularly. maybe during a second tour he will meet the right lady. she will be here, and she will meet him. it's really true. we have several stories for both men and women. right away i can think of two weddings in the past two months. one was george and yana, and the other is garret and olga. in george's case, when he came, he became totally enamored. it was his first time and he became immersed in the culture, he loved it. but didn't meet his woman. so after several times by himself, coming back and trying, he decided to go on another tour. yes, she was there, and it was so magical. we're happy to be part of that wedding.
on the other side, garret and olga - she kept coming back, but her guy was not there. then finally he arrived. so you have to understand, that maybe for the one you're destined for, your heart knows this is the path. you know what you're looking for, is going to be here someday. that may be the case. the next point is that maybe in some cases, the guys arrive and they learn it's more than they were prepared for. they question whether they were truly ready. irina, do you want to comment on that? i would like to comment on that. some guys, they think they are prepared. they think they are really ready for a serious relationship and for having a family.
then they come to ukraine. and you know, as a rule, i do not know why. but for those guys everything intially goes well. they will meet nice women, and they're intending to continue their communication. when a guy understands that it's really come to be something serious, he thinks: "i should make decisions, and my life will be changed." some of them are not ready, and they are not prepared for that. they become scared, or afraid, to change their lives or bring a woman else into their lives. they can't handle all that stuff you must share to create a family. so it really happens. not very often, but we have several examples.
yeah, i remember a few of those, when they arrived and realized, this is serious. these girls are serious. all of the sudden they are saying "i thought i was ready, but i'm really not." then they step away and come back later. except for one. i had one case. i'll tell you this story. i don't know if i've told you this before. it was a number of years ago. we've been doing this long enough, that we would encounter almost every story eventually. i had a guy, out of somewhere like iceland. it was crazy, we had a guy from iceland that wanted to come. he canceled ten days before the tour. no, it was even less than that. it was about 48 hours before he was supposed to leave, and he cancels.
i asked him why, and he said: "you know, i've been sitting here thinking about it. i actually like being single." i just decided i want to stay single! he said i could take the tour fee that he'd already paid, and donate it to the orphanage. he was satisfied remaining single. it's funny that people learn about themselves in this process. i think it's great. you should learn about yourself. then again, i love this next one. because this is such a great point. the guy gains more confidence from his first trip. it's going to help him on a future trip. we see this often. mark, what about your own story? it happened with you!
alright, ok, i'll tell my story. it happens to be the next point. i went overseas five different times. i even met a woman that i wanted to marry, in brazil. it didn't work out, and i was disappointed. because i really thought she was going to be the one. i did all of that before i even arrived in ukraine, when i met my wife. i value every one of those trips. they were remarkable. i mean it was such a great thing. for me and my story, i hadn't been out of my own country in 22 years. i hadn't experienced anything. i had merely been driving white minivans, trying to raise kids and earn money for the family. then i got to experience all of this wonder.
so to me, i really almost hope that you guys get a chance to do it a couple of times. i mean, it's nice that we have such a high success rate, and guys find their lady on the first visit. the guys who get to travel twice, they love it. it's so rich. because the second trip they can be comfortable and relaxed. they enjoy it so much more. they value every moment of the whole experience so much more. and so, every part of it, is not a loss. i treasure each of those trips. nothing is a loss. they prepared me for the day i would finally meet my wife. the other point we would like to include, and this was one of irina's points. i'll invite her to comment on this. don't compare your story with anybody else's story.
some guys come here with a great wish to have a wife. they speak of finding her today or tomorrow. they say "i want her to be mine after the trip, and it doesn't matter what else happens." if those guys are not very successful from the beginning of the tour, such as not selecting a girlfriend by the second or the third date of the tour, they try to compare their story to somebody else's story. this guy met a girlfriend already, and i have not met mine, so something is wrong. he begins to be disappointed and frustrated, and of course it influences his attitude. his attitude towards the tour and his dates. he doesn't want to try something else and meet another woman.
it shouldn't be like that. i told you before, that means your life story will be unique and be individual, only for you. it can happen that you will meet your lady on saturday or sunday. it can happen that you will meet your lady on friday. one time, i was working with a prior client. he started the tour here, and actually he met one woman. but we discussed their relationship with him, and we didn't see something really special between them. unfortunately. he was doubting the relationship will work. actually i attended a date with them together, and i concluded the same. that's why they could not come together as one, for themselves.
and after that, we continued the dating with him, and i proposed that he meet several other nice and wonderful ladies. he accepted my suggestion, and we went for a date. one, and afterward for a second. you know what? on the second date, he met that woman, and she met him actually. it was a fantastic date, they began to talk about such interesting topics. they had common interests, and common hobbies. the conversation went so smoothly. they shared a lot of information. sometimes it doesn't happen on the third or fourth date. sometimes people are a little bit nervous.
they felt like they already knew each other for a long time. they are sworn, and now they're continuing their communication. she wanted to send him photos, and she came to my office and asked me to help to make some photos. she asked me to make sure that she will look beautiful in them. she thanked me, and he received the photos. he said "oh my god! she is beautiful! all the photos are." then he plans his second trip. so, guys. don't be scared. don't be frustrated, and disappointed. never give up. that is the point. that's a great point, and those are great stories. we've got more stories like that too.
the guys come, and we tell them it will be an emotional week. there will be ups and downs, highs and lows. just remember that you're not at the end yet. we have more good tales coming from this, but that's a wonderful story. we love our guys when they find something, even when it doesn't happen they way they think it will. now for the "know it all syndrome". this is my own peeve, this wasn't one of irina's points. but i wanted to throw this discussion on here, because these guys drive me crazy. by the way, most of these guys i can identify early. if there is somebody really with an attitude that i don't like, we don't invite him. i have two rules. irina and the others have psychological counseling and matchmaking tasks that they do.
that's part of their process. for me, i have two rules. one, first of all: i need to know that you're actually serious and ready, and available, to find your half, your life partner. i'm not taking guys who are only casually dating and just playing around. they're saying, look - i'm open. i want to find mine. i feel drawn to whatever county overseas that we are going to. i feel that she is there. second thing is, it must be somebody that i would actually like being with for a week. i mean, my opinion is that we don't get a lot of jerks, so your experience is going to be great. guys on the tour are great. but once in a while, situations come up in the middle of the week. some guys have already been overseas, they develop an attitude that they can handle it all.
here is the reason why. first of all, you can't advise these guys on anything. i'll arrive there, and i'll find out that somebody did not watch all the training videos. and i say "those are required! what do you mean, you didn't watch them?" and they reply "look, i already speak the language." or "i've already been there so many times." or "i went on a tour with another company, i know how this goes." and plus, the guys will state: back home, i date hot women, so i'm totally ready for this. the advice is maybe for your other guys. this is when they become arrogant and insulting! again, i usually can weed them out before the tour.
but this is when i'm using skype with a guy, and i tell him "you are not approved." they start saying "look, maybe you get a bunch of losers that cannot handle it, but i date hot ladies all the time." and i reply "dude, have you seen any of our videos?" we get professionals, we get wonderful guys. they are not leftovers. this tour is for the better man's excellent choice, of excellence for his life. so a guy who displays an attitude that he knows it all, and he already dates hot girls, and he thinks he's ready, and the other guys are losers, the girls will want him. my reaction is: "you think you're so good, but you're not invited!" but once in a while, a guy will arrive over there
and all of the sudden this mentality will creep up a little bit, and i have to talk to him about it. it really frustrates me. honestly, god bless, i only get a couple of these a year, out of the hundreds that go. because if it was more than that, i would be wanting to clobber somebody. this is the one thing that so agitates me. think about how stupid this is, guys. "oh i travel all the time, i know already how this works." look, if they're so smart, why are they not married yet? ok? do they really think they know more than we do? we have been doing this for so long. we have arranged over 2300 dates. we have over 200 men and women married. we have no divorces.
i mean, you've got to understand. for someone to sit there and tell me how it works? and i'm not a guy with a big ego. but they want to tell me how it works? you ought to at least be married, so you have some credibility. ugh, these guys drive me crazy! i'm sorry, ok, i'll calm down. you know, these guys go home with the same result they had, on all of the rest of their trips. a whole lot of "i know how it works" and they are still single. so, anyway i feel better. thanks for letting me speak. i wanted to tell more, yes i would like to. i remember we had several clients like this. i do not think it is very wise to assume you know everything in the world.
any educated and intelligent person, he enjoys studying and to get to know something new for himself, every certain day of his life. when i communicate on skype, and then we come to the phase of watching videos - mark's videos or dream connections videos, everything that can help him to win, while being on the tour. i tell them that there is a latin phrase, which means we can believe a person, that has experienced something for himself. first of all, mark met his wife at such an event one time, and they are happy. second of all, he has been helping people to create more happy couples in this wonderful work.
that is why i think it is very nice and wise, to take advice and accept suggestions from this person. and of course all of our team will try to help you, and with leaders being here with you, they will be speaking in real life and trying to explain things. because a lot of questions appear, starting from differences in mentality and culture, and finishing with your own way of creating the relationship. that's why ... i know everything? i never met a person who knows everything. well said, thank you. exactly! alright, here is a good one. we get this often. obsessing on one women too soon.
i'm going to stop at each of these points, and let irina talk about them. so first of all, the guy who is obsessed about a profile, before he arrives. please talk about that one. i think it's part of a fashion of marriage agencies around the world. people think they can choose somebody, merely by looking at photos and reading some fantasies about features of character, or personality. unfortunately, it influences our clients as well. when men go to the dream connections website, i have asked them to make a list of their favorites. i cannot say ladies, only profiles, because they have not met ladies yet. and of course, they see those beautiful pictures. ukrainian women are beautiful, it's not a secret.
and he read something nice about her in her profile. of course, we have written something nice about her in the profile. and a guy begins to think, here she is, here is my dream. i'm going there to meet her. when he comes here, and he imagines meeting this woman. of course everything is wonderful. our women are nice. we do not work with ladies who have a bad attitude towards life, or ladies who are not ready for a serious relationship. of course they are sleek and soft, and pleasant to spend time with. yes, he will like her profile, and like her in person. done! yet, that doesn't allow him to give a chance to another woman.
you know, love like a relationship, works two ways. it should work in two ways. we should see the interest from the woman. if that doesn't happen, and he is concentrated only on her, and he doesn't want to have dates with other women, of course this creates a problem. his only chance becomes going home with mashed emotions. let's talk about that. because there is a part of it, that you touched on the second point, if they have too much emotional energy towards one woman too early, and she's not matching his energy. but because he's fixated, he's focused on a profile he saw before he came. we do observe this often. guys will say: "my trip will be ruined if i can't meet this one woman."
really? you're going to meet 90 ladies and your whole trip will be ruined? oh, guess what? she and her family this particular week are in lviv, visiting their cousins. now your trip is ruined? to me, it's such a ridiculous situation. you haven't met. it's a profile, not even a woman. it's a picture, it's a thing, and you're obsessing over it. so first of all, i always advise, do not commit emotional energy to a girl you haven't met in person. second point though. what if you do meet in person? and now you're mesmerized by her. oh my gosh! we've told the story of alex, who gave a great testimonial, about how he obsessed with a profile of a redhead lady. and he got to meet her, and she spent time with him.
they went on 5 dates, but by the last date, he realized he was the only one obsessing. the energy was not going both directions. by then, an entire week had passed. in fact it was more than that, nearly 10 days had passed. all he had been doing was trying to spend time with this one. suddenly he ends up saying "wow, i got nothing." in his case he spent two weeks there, so he was able to recover, and resume dating a lady he met earlier. he went on dates with her, and guess what? today those two are in a relationship. but most people don't have the luxury of waiting in ukraine until something happens. so listen to our advice. you've got to monitor your heart.
do not get emotionally obsessed and connected with a lady too soon and too early. and that brings us to the third point, which is: the guy who only dates one woman in the initial few days. he finds this one, she captivates him, and so he says: i don't want to date anybody else until i really see if this works or not. and he will go all the way through to wednesday, with excuses. well, at the end of the day, for whatever reason... we just didn't fit. i obsessed, we spent too much time, she wasn't too interested. but she was nice to me. so then he chooses another one, and he gets acquainted with just one more. these guys come to the entire end of the week, and have only dated two women.
now they have not had enough time to really see where it all goes. guys, we have a system. in fact, part of our teaching when you are on a tour, one of our catchphrases is "trust the system." so irina, please add some of your great observations on this. i'd like you to tell the viewers what we do recommend on how to do all this, so that at the end of the week, a client has had the chance to really absorb and learn about himself and the ladies, and he can really make good decisions. i wanted to mention this point.
very often i hear from guys, that upon meeting other women instead of one particularly, they feel like they are cheating on her. guys, please don't think like that. both women and guys are there for the same purpose. ladies do understand that you are dating others, and she can date other guys. it's normal, it's not cheating. it's just giving an opportunity and creating conditions for a person to choose the right one, the one who will bring happiness for the whole rest of your life. you have justification. that is why, we do have a system.
during conversations on skype with guys, i mention, that i suggest you have at least one date, after the "meet and greet" event. on saturday and sunday. and of course, you should create a special schedule, according to which ones you're going to approach during the week, together with your interpreter. if you need my help of course, i will be very happy to give it. i ask them the question, "how many dates did you have during the day?" again, it's a question. it's your decision. you can have 1, 2, 3. or maybe 4. quality is not the same as quantity, but at the same time, make sure you will use all of the opportunities and possibilities while you are here.
it's true. because on my second day of training, i will use the catchphrase "carpe diem". guys, you're here. this is your window of opportunity. otherwise you're going to return to your cubicle, and life is as it was. you're here. take advantage of it. you need to have the full exposure. and again, the ladies understand. i do have training on how to keep the momentum going with a girl. for setting the next date so she knows when she will see you again. we share all these hints we've learned, about how to make ladies feel respected and loved. each date you do, is like being a guy who is a competitive dancer, in this moment.
he's dancing every day with many different ladies, by the end of the entire dancing tournament. but in this moment, it's just the two of them. no one else in the world exists. keep that attitude, that when you're in that moment, there is nobody else, only you and her. make it special. if you really liked the energy of that person, before you leave or put her in a taxi, schedule the next time you will see her, so that she knows that she's going to see you again. because she understands why you are there. it's not cheating, they understand the situation. you have to take advantage of this opportunity that you're given. it's simply too important for everything in your heart. i joke i always tell these guys, that you can have many dates, but you can only marry one wife.
so don't be worried. just relax and enjoy your time. try to make, first of all, a good impression with all the ladies you will meet. show her something interesting, and you will see what will happen afterward. yes, please, two things. first of all, relax and enjoy the experience. you're not trying to marry her right away. you're trying to get to know the ladies. you're dating, and having a good time. second thing is, please - always remember this next fact. our guys do this, but i want you to understand. the fact that you guys go there, and you have a wonderful time with a lady,
she comes away saying "i had great date with a western man!" then she tells other girls. even if you don't marry all the ladies, the fact is that the women will say: wow! i really met a good guy through dream connections. this is how we stay in business. this is how we have such a great reputation. because of you guys, you treat these ladies well. you have a wonderful time, and the women are so impressed with how you guys behave, and your manners as gentlemen, and the fun they offer. so really, you guys help us. you help each other, and you help your future brothers who are going to follow after you. because it generates the reputation that we have. third. i added a third point, i was only going to do two, but i added another.
the third point is, you won't be rejected. because you do not even make the calls. your interpreter, she is the one who calls and plans the dates. if a lady says "no" she hears the "no". you don't even get the "no". so you have nothing to risk. this is great. you've never had this kind of opportunity before. our interpreters are trained how to arrange all of that. one time a guy asked me: how would he arrange several dates? for example if finishing with one and the second lady will be waiting. don't worry, please. trust your interpreter. she knows how to do this. everything does not offend a woman, and it will be comfortable and convenient for you.
and also, i wanted to review one thing, which mark said one time. i do appreciate and respect this, and do agree with it. he said that you should come here with an open heart. be ready for any kind of experience, and accept that experience in a positive way. making estimates of whether the 80% or the 20% will be the result for you, is not an effective use of time. well said! that is really the secret sentence, or secret formula to this thing. come here, and be prepared to receive whatever is supposed to come to you out of this experience. you can't guess what that is, in advance. alright, now how about the guys who chase fantasies? this is always interesting to us, and it's hard to resist.
irina, you could tell the stories about what happens. that's my favorite item, i think. thank you mark. you know, when i communicate with guys on skype, and then we discuss that special woman they are looking for, for example i was speaking with a guy, who is a little bit older than middle age. he tells me he would really like to meet a woman who is close to his age, maybe ten years younger, or something like that. and we discuss that in ukraine it's very normal when a man is older than a woman by 10 to 15 years age difference, it's perfect.
maybe 70 to 100 percent perfect. he tells me, that of course he does agree, he does not want to meet a girl that is 40 years younger than him. that's not normal and they'd be on different levels. i did agree, i liked everything he told me, so i said yes of course, we will be able to help you meet those wonderful women who are mature, and experience the mood of the tour. i'm happy, and he's happy, and after that talk, he comes to ukraine. he attends the "meet and greet" event. he sees about 80 or 90, this time we had close to 100 women. those beautiful young women. and then he begins to be lost.
he forgets everything he told me, he forgets everything he was looking for. he doesn't care actually, he invites women who are 40 years of age younger than him. in future he imagines being happy together with her, having wonderful family and many children. of course, it's just a fantasy. you know, even young ladies, they will agree to have a date, because when i speak to the girls, i tell them if you have the intention to come to the "meet and greet" event, and you give phone numbers to nobody, and you go on dates with nobody, it will not result nicely for you. you will find nobody. so they have taken into consideration, my advice.
and they say: why not? i will try. a woman goes on a date with a guy and the date goes wonderfully. a man accepts a date like her. yes, for developing the relationship. however, she had been looking this and thinking maybe. anything can happen, you know? sometimes people have difference in age, bigger than you would find in america. it works with some of them. but it's rather an exception, than the rule. that is why my suggestion is, not to be lost. please remember that you came here to find your wife, your life partner. not just a person to have nice dates with.
we have an example of one australian man. a wonderful man, very kind, with a positive smile, friendly. i adored him, and he came to ukraine wanting to find a woman close to his age. but at the first "meet and greet" event... how old was he? i think he was middle sixties. i do not want to be wrong, but his age was near that. and he saw several beautiful young ladies who were 20 to 23 years of age, maybe 25. and he was dating only these girls. when i was reading through the reports, i was simply shocked. what is happening? i should speak to him. i should intervene.
i had a conversation with him. and he told me: irina, i had a wonderful time. they are nice young ladies. they like me. i told him, yes of course they like you. but they should like you enough to consider becoming your wife. i am here for that. i would like to help you with that. i asked: "could you please do a favor for me? try to have a date with a woman i will suggest to you." this woman is close to your age. she is beautiful, she is nice. i know her. i have been acquainted with her for a long time. he says: no, why should i stop meeting those young women? the girls are nice, i want to continue the dating.
i'm sure, if he did not take my suggestion into consideration, and he continued going out with only young ladies, merely to have a nice time, enjoying each other's company - it would not be effective for him, and he would leave without any kind of result. but thanks to god, you know, he did have a date with that woman, and now they are engaged. they started with the process. they are going to live together. i do see them together. he comes very often to ukraine, and they come to say "hi" in the restaurant close to the hotel where they stay. i can see with this couple, there is a harmony in the couple. they understand each other. they have the same level of maturity. they are so cute next to each other, and both of them are happy having a serious relationship.
it is wonderful, and i think about the fact that for guys, it's almost like you're chasing a fantasy. it's this thing you could not believe to be true. you know, a guy who is 64 or whatever age, asks himself, why would a 23 year old go out with me? and she is jovial and happy, and young! so he's scintillated by this, and his senses are all alive. but he will end up returning home without a relationship, only having this experience. we don't want an outcome like that from our tour. i've seen men with the other attitude too. they say: "i am not going to date anyone more than 10 years younger than me." i have had to recommend that men try both situations.
date a woman older than you thought, and younger. just to test your desires. let me give you my points here, and i will walk through all this. so first of all, we talked about the guy who allows himself, to be distracted by women who offer low probability of success. that's what we were talking about. and then you ask yourself: "what are you here for?" obviously guys on our trip are part of a small niche. our little business is only for those guys who are ready to find a life partner. we are not a venue for casual dating. and i want to tell you a little bit about our experience with age gaps.
because this is the real question: what is appropriate? i am asked this question all the time. guys think there is a perfect number, and they are going to find it. i see many scenarios. i meet older guys who say "i want a wife who can have kids." so then a guy who is 62 tries looking for a woman in her twenties that is physically able to have children. i'm saying these are all the wrong questions. so i want to offer in this monologue my advice about age gaps. irina may want to continue. first of all, what we teach, is that you should look for chemistry (compatibility.) pure pursuit of chemistry first, not an age bracket. here is why i say that. when you sit at a table, irina and her staff have arranged the name badges,
and my wife is there, and we try to place at every table, a lady in her 20s, 30s, and 40s. that way there is a lady at every table who can appeal to everybody. this is a way to experience this culture from different women, they way they are. it's a wonderful thing. what you're doing is expressing simple notions, but you're looking for chemistry, or spark. something that is fun and playful. find a girl who responded to you, because chemistry is a two way thing. it means that you reached out with your energy, and she reached out to you, so it was fun. you sense it and cannot even explain why. the translator next asks, if any of the ladies would like to go on a date with that man.
the women must write their phone number and say, "yes i would readily go on a date with him." so all of the sudden, if you are pursuing chemistry first, you're encountering a lady who was really fascinating to you, who was curious about you, and then you go out with those women, and you discover where that chemistry grows. it may surprise you. some people find out and say "wow!" we have one friend who married a woman that is around ten years different, and he is ecstatic. he found a life partner who can give him new energy. other people find this and they are panicked. "oh my gosh, she is 18 years younger, and i can't do this." and i say: well, wait. she's 32, you're 50.
she's a mature person with a child. you're okay with that fact. you should respect her choice too. she's also choosing you. choose those women who are choosing you. what you're telling her, is that she's not smart. you are saying that you don't respect her choice, as she is also selecting you. so i have both sides of this equation that we want to balance. the answer is still to follow chemistry. you know, whether a guy comes here being unrealistic... he comes here when he is 65 and he thinks he will find a late twenties woman to bear his children. no. because the young women? guess what? they have choices too.
the ladies are going to meet 25 guys. the average ages of the men is 38 to 40. the women have choices of who they want to date. and so for you to think, you're going to pursue an age bracket, is not realistic. but if you will allow energy to come, you will find out what is right. the right person will like you too. when the two of you are enthralled with each other, that lasts for a lifetime. and guess what i believe? i believe that if you find energy with her, and she find energy with you, there is a reason for that. you have many commonalities.
you already have things in your souls, the way you laugh at things, the way you see the world together. if you follow that, it brings joy. and it also tends to bring, common interests of lifestyle that you both like. it's fun to see the way these pairings happen. but i'm telling you, if a guy comes like a guy who i spoke with just a month ago he said he was after an age bracket, he's looking for a specific age. i told him i don't do that, i'm sorry. if you can't listen to the way we do it, we're not the only one. there was a seven year long study that eharmony did. they claim to have less than 5% divorce rate.
they said this: couples that pursue chemistry first with each other, above all other criteria, those are the ones that endure. those are the couples they are making, and why they are successful. so it's not only me. this is true with big scientific studies, from the biggest dating businesses in the world. if you can't get onto the program, and you're fixated with finding a trophy wife, some visual candy, or you are too restrictive, and you're not open to whatever god has for you, you'll fail. simply go there. what irina said, is true. be open to receive what this experience is supposed to bring to you. then it'll become natural and effortless. among all of our couples, the guys say: i was so stressed and nervous about dating. but when i finally met her, that all disappeared.
it is like we have known each other forever. that is what you are looking for. yes? yes. the average age difference is ten years. but you're human, and you're going to have your own unique story. you can't create expectations of your life with a woman that you haven't met yet. guys will do this. we always imagine everything too quickly. all the way to the end. we've already imagined who she is, how many years she has, how she is going to do things, how she is going to come to me, what i'm going to do for her, and how this whole relationship is going to work.
and you haven't even met her yet! these are conversations that you'll have with a lady when you meet her. so don't try. you can't predetermine this stuff. alright. now let's talk about mistakes in telling your story. there are several points to review here. first of all, there is a positive and a negative way to discuss anything in your story. irina, you can continue. any kind of information can be presented in different ways. it has a great influence, on the impression you make to her.
as i've told you also, with those guys whom i communicate with on skype, many times, i have advised them, that there will not be a second chance, to make a first impression. that is why we arrange meeting your translator at a dinner. it is such a special event. we think you will be able to establish rapport with your translator. you get to know each other better, maybe through a short story about your life. your lifestyle, hobbies, interests, profession. anything. she will help to represent you in the best way. she will help you because she is a woman who lives in ukraine. she knows the mentality of people. she knows what ukrainian women would like to see in a man.
that is why all these bits of knowledge, they will be very useful to you. you will represent yourself in the best possible way, at the "meet and greet" event. of course, it's very important. from there, it will depend on whether one woman or another wants to have a date with you. i will give an example, how to speak about yourself. one time i walked by a table, and i heard part of the story a man was telling to the ladies at the table. he said, "i am an old man, and i'm very disappointed with american women." all are bad, and not family oriented. these women have high expectations from a relationship.
the women ask too much from men. of course, a woman sitting there will think: this man is speaking in a bad way about women. it seems to be, that he is not a very nice man as himself. so she quickly makes her conclusions. she will think very briefly about having a date with such a guy, who does not have a nice attitude about women, in general. then he speaks in words describing the problems he had with his previous wife, that she left him because he earned less money than she did, and she took care of the children, but that he didn't do enough sometimes... all of us are not perfect.
we make mistakes in life. we study those mistakes, and that is the most important. if you come to ukraine because you want to change your life, i'm sure you will be willing to change yourself first of all, and you're not going to make the same mistakes in the future. you would like be better. and you would like to find a lady, for whom you can be better. that is why, please, leave all of your negative stories from your past, in your past. you are a new person with a wonderful purpose, to have a second half. with a wonderful purpose to be better, and be the best one for her.
that is why you should present yourself only from the positive and nice side. it will help. positive people attract positive people. wow, well said. that is well said. positive people attract each other. put forward what you want in return. also, do not share too much, too soon. when you enter the training, after you do your first payment, you will get my training courses. i dedicate an entire chapter to this idea, of the pacing and timing of the week. understand the purpose of each element. the purpose of the "meet and greet" event, is simply to see if you have a spark with a girl.
it's a public setting. if you speak inappropriately, we will counsel you, do not be somebody who thinks he will tell stories of his prior wives in a public forum. you would not do that at a social gathering. why would you? this is not appropriate. maybe later you'll get into explaining these stories. or maybe not! my wife, even when she came to america, still didn't understand what i did for employment. and she didn't care. she thought, "the fact that he could see me in ukraine, was enough information i need to know on that topic." she did learn that i had two prior wives and four kids, but not until the third date. it's not that i was withholding that information. we had just begun getting to know each other. we were having a good time, we were talking life and philosophies, and movies, etcetera.
progressively, you share more and more of who you are in your life story. it's part of getting to know each other. the worst case scenario, i've told this story many times. it's absolutely true. a guy named tim, he came on the second tour i organized. he came before i had prepared any of my teaching materials. this is how i developed my teaching materials, from these bad stories. he sat at the table and asked "ok, which of you have kids, and which of you are divorced?" and so you cringe and think "oh my god!" the translator quickly grabbed me and said: "you have to talk to this guy." we tried our best.
you have to understand this. appropriateness belongs in everything you do. go ahead irina. i would like to say more about that. also, not at the "meet and greet" event would you speak on philosophical matters, or viewpoints. it's not necessary to do that at the "meet and greet" event. just make acquaintance with women. that's enough. after each guy meets a lady that he likes very much, he can become very excited. a guy begins to write to her, and call her. he continues dating her and speaking about everything.
she indicates that it's time for her to sleep, and the man says: no. please listen to me, i will write several more messages. i want to tell you about this, and this too, and tell you something about my life, and i will ask you several questions too. please, guys. don't do this! go slowly. slowly. afterward the lady would call me and she says: oh my god! he was writing to me until 2:00 about something he wanted to share with me. it was a little bit strange. but, i do understand him. he is excited, and that he has met a special woman. it's just that there is a proper time, a right time, when to do something.
you will have much time in the future, when you can share everything. and also, please wait until that time, when she asks for more answers. she'll say: "could you please tell me about this part of your life? i would really like to know." yeah. let them lead. i think that's fun. we had a talk as a team, earlier. we were discussing the guys and saying: "you want to leave, while the girls still want more of you." so we have this phrase, "how can i miss you if you never leave?" it is a part of you, you need to manage. balance your time, and look forward to the next time you both are together. so let go, allow the ladies to sleep. the ladies still have jobs to do, and other things,
until such time when she can be in your country. and don't apologize for your life. we encounter examples of guys who feel negative about everything they do. again, this goes back to our first point, that there is a positive and negative way to say everything. i had a guy who was a truck driver. and he was trying to figure out describe what he does, he says it's horrible, always being on the road. i ask him to tell me about his travel. he tells me in this particular case, it was merely a regular route. he left in the morning and returns home at night.
so i tell him some things. you have a regular job, you're home every night, you're home every weekend. what is wrong with being a truck driver? you should promote this. you have so much time you can give to a wife. other guys, they have businesses. they work nights and weekends. and they are stressed. they have so much on their minds. you can clear your mind. you go deliver things and make regular money. you can be emotionally open to support your wife. wow, that's a great story!
even a guy who is a trucker, if he goes a long distance, and he was looking for a wife to ride with him, although not every women would be interested. but if he loves his life and is excited about it, he can say: look, i get to see the entire country. i see new places all the time. i get to travel, and i'm looking for a woman to sit next to me, share stories and enjoy my life together. we can go see the world. and so, you see how to tell the story. i had another guy, in canada. i'm buddies with these guys in canada, they work on the oil rigs. they are gone for a week at a time, but then they are home for a week. i respond, "let me get this right."
unlike everybody else who has typical jobs, you can have en entire seven days, when you have nothing but time with your wife? you know, get her a puppy for the week you are gone, and help her find some other friends. you've got to find the bottom line. it's that you must first and foremost, love your life. and i've always said this, if you don't love something about your life, don't invite a woman to join you. i mean, if you hate your life, don't bring anybody into that. you know what i'm saying? there has got to be a situation where you love what you have, and you simply want to share it with her. so get to that place, and your story is going to be fine. and of course, don't share bad experiences from your past.
the guys, god bless you, some of you guys out there. you finally joined a support group for alcoholism, and you have been sober for many years. and you are proud of that! but you have no idea, of the legacy problems and issues there are with alcoholism in ukraine. for you to visit there and say: "i drank for 15 years but now i'm sober." she is going to react: the devil no! you can look elsewhere. goodbye! you have no chance! ukrainian women don't understand, and they won't believe you. so to me, that past is irrelevant. who cares what happened 5 or 10 years ago? if you have stopped, then just tell the ladies you do not drink.
of course you should share everything about your life, but do it in the future. nobody will love you immediately, knowing all of your bad features and other bad stuff that you had been doing in your life. try to assure her of nice things, she is tired of her life in ukraine, where she sees nothing which is nice. and you are telling her the same? i have been drinking. i have problems with my back. i was not able to find a good job. do not do this. find your inspiration. try to be your best, with her. again, we are talking about when you first meet a girl, and you're telling your story. later in the week, you can step into more of the things that pertain to the rest of your story. maybe even later than that! not during this first week.
when you have become very close. then you will share everything with her. and she will do the same with you. well, keep in mind too, that as part of your courtship, this is a developing process. you will get to know each other more. it's wonderful, actually. save some tales! always have something more to tell the next time you meet. alright, so now irina, you have some stories. i just want to pause. i don't know if you want to share the story about teeth, or other stories. but there is just general etiquette that guys from anywhere in the world, should have more common sense. do you want to share some stories?
i will. guys, when you have a date with a women, please don't think you are spending time with your buddy. i mean your fellow man with whom you can discuss everything. don't share everything, like your visits to the doctor, and the all the problems with your health. or showing something wrong with your teeth, and many other things that happened while i was working as a translator, and as manager as well. please remember, she is a woman. she wants to see something nice within you. she wants to see a person who is intellectually and culturally higher than she is. she wants to be better for you, and when a guy misbehaves like this, it's so very unappealing. speaking about the recent tour, i had problems with two guys who were using profane words.
non literary words, in front of women. with one guy i had a conversation. he was a little bit old. i explained to him that we all understand, that sometimes we use such words. there is a time and a place you can do this, but not in front of a woman, with whom you would like to make a nice impression. please guys, don't do this. the second guy, i simply made a lesson for him. he cursed in front of me and i quickly left there. i had no wish to stay there longer, because please, be a gentleman.
be intelligent. i would like to be proud of you. when i tell ladies about you guys, about my clients, i tell them only nice things. i tell them that you are wonderful people, kind hearted, with a warm heart. i say that you would like to meet nice women, who have family values, who are well educated and stable in their professions. please try to be like that. try to live up to the reputation that we've already given about you! really, guys. it's not that hard. for one week, especially in front of women, remember that you want to find women that have traditional values. you want to find those different values.
well guess what? part of that is, profanity is not done in front of women and children. that's part of it. ok? so please for a week, be attentive, restrain your mouth, and realize you're going to find her. you want to find a different culture. you want to find traditional values. well guess what? you need to step into that, and also be that person with a different value system. alright? that is fair enough, we can discuss something else. let's talk now about the seven things, that i think do contribute to your success. because some guys, as i said, are in the 20% that didn't succeed. but there are so many things that are in your control.
i'm going to go through these fairly quickly. first of all, obviously, is picking a good system to help you succeed. dream connections is dedicated to helping to create couples. my wife and i didn't even take a salary for the first two years, because i thought i was going to earn money somewhere else. this opportunity simply grew beyond expectations. we had to make it a full time effort. but we're really here to help create couples, and we have a system that works. and so, by picking us, you guys are already being smart. oh, and by the way, i haven't mentioned, but i just got these magazines today. we're on the front cover of the better business journal magazine, with a great article.
you guys can read about that later. so, i believe you are in the right place. second thing, is dedicate yourself to your own education and preparation. as i went through my own journey, my own story, the preparation that i did, reading the books, these actions made a huge difference in my ability to present myself and learn. you should be doing this all of your life. always be growing, maturing, reading, and improving yourself. this leads to asking questions when you do your skype calls. learn from the other guys who are in your group. every tour has its own secret facebook group. you get to talk with all of the other guys going with you.
and of course you should be listening and studying the training videos. i have another five points after this. irina, do you want to say anything based on this, or should i continue? i think that you told everything that i mentioned before. a man should be educated, a man should be proud of who he is. he is going to be an example for his wife and for his future children. this can require some work. it's not an easy task. but it's worth the effort, and you should do it. yes, it is worthwhile. these items are within your control. now i want to talk about other things that you can't control,
but you need to make the best of them, and here they are. first of all, is your personality. your personality is something you need to convey. because the first and foremost thing you will learn from my training, is that the women are asking themselves questions while interacting with you. what chemistry do i have with this guy? meaning, does she like him? would she like to spend more time with him? is this fun? does she enjoy interacting with this person? the core reasoning is that regardless of your personality type,
whether you are expressive, whether you are an engineer and analytical, or an artistic personality or a strong personality, it's being confident and comfortable and fun, that appeals universally. keep working on that. and additionally, personal development. are you growing as a person? are you always adding new knowledge to yourself? because what goes in, comes out. it is easy to articulate things that you recently learned, when they are fresh and exciting to you. and then of course, having ambition. that's the one thing i've heard again and again. the ladies said they love this aspect of the guys.
they are men with desires to make their lives better. they have ambition. irina do you want to comment on that one? of course men should have ambition. to develop himself from early age, and i think that he should never finish. guys... confidence, being a person with whom it is comfortable and convenient, to have a conversation and be near him... of course it attracts women. of course women want to see that in a man. such a man will have 100% success during a tour. you have to reach toward becoming like that. here is the answer, personal development.
in all different fields of life, not solely knowledge... it can be skills, it can be communicated skills, your profession. your hobbies and interests. your relationship with your family. what kind of father you are. what kind of former husband you have been. what kind of employee you are, or you can have your own business. or maybe you are fond of reading, or art. it doesn't matter. all of that gives you something which makes you better. it brings you confidence, and you really need that when communicating with her. it's true, and ultimately happiness is going to come from growth.
every time you're growing and learning more, it makes you fulfilled and deeply satisfied in your soul. it's a wonderful feeling. and that feeling overflows, and it's very attractive. we have a saying here, and i'm sorry to interrupt mark. only those people who have small minds are always unhappy. so, you understand that. yes, absolutely. i also have teaching that i have done. i taught the 10 character traits of genuinely confident men. i'm also developing now, my "noble king" material, which i will release later. you can learn more, about the entirety of all these developmental aspects of a man.
but truthfully, these are things you can improve on, and work on, to be part of your life as a growing person. the next point, is physical attractiveness. this is something that we have to be honest about, it is a factor. we do not compare to brad pitt. some of us are heavier, thinner, taller or shorter. but we've seen every possible body size, find a wife. there are other points i'm going to discuss, and you have to consider the whole package. so i want to give you this example now, and then we'll finish this out. i've offered this example before. consider this.
have you ever met a samoan guy? one of these big, happy, native guys? they're wonderful, they love people, and you also love being around these happy guys. they have a warm, big, robust personality. they may be huge. samoans are big guys, a lot of them look really fat. they're like hawaiians. they're huge, right? but such a guy can be wonderful to be near. he's got personality. physically, his smile radiates and makes him warm and attractive. but his body is not the appeal. ok, so you look at all the characteristics he has. he doesn't make a lot of money, but he lives in hawaii!
that type of guy is going to have a great chance because of the whole package. look at all the pieces that he brings to be considered. i think that is what you truly need to study. each of these, do the best you can. we offer a lot of assistance on personal development and physical fitness. we are even going to help you when you arrive there, with your fashion and attire and style. all these kinds of things help to present you as your best. you should always want to appear your best. when i met my wife, she said that i dressed like a grandfather.
and so, she started taking me shopping. i started changing. guess what? when i came back home to america, i received comments from people. wow, dude, i like the shirt, and the shoes, you look great. it feels good. so suddenly after that, i never went back. i realized that i want to have good fashion. it became part of me. another fact is that during the past year i've lost 40 pounds. i've gotten into shape, i've been increasing muscle, and i feel fantastic. it's part of me now. every day, i want to personally develop, and make my physical appearance part of the whole package. you do what you can, with what you're given.
i think that is the most important point. there is a book available. it's called something like: you need to use all you have, but all you have is enough. are you really using all that you have? do all you can. but are you really doing all you can? when you get lazy sometimes, acknowledge that. you should always be working toward good physical fitness. make it a priority. you eat, you get dressed, and you should also be exercising your body. you change the oil in your car... you should take care too of your body. dressing well is not negotiable. it costs very little, to wear nice clothes that have a style. clothes can have a character and personality. if you don't know how to shop for clothes, you can learn.
i was recently invited to page on facebook that is all about men and fashion. it's really interesting and i looked at it, and got some ideas from people. of course, when i go to ukraine, i know a bunch of people there who love me and take me shopping. between my wife, and our translators, and other people... they all will help me choose something. so, you'll have that opportunity too. your physical appearance is something you are born with, but do the best with it that you can. agreed? yes, i wanted to mention to guys, that women are not attracted to a pretty smile, or long legs, or beautiful hair. for us, to be attracted towards a man, it is something deeper. i want to give you an example. not much time ago, i was watching a television program.
the program was about danny devito. i'm sure you know that this actor is very popular and famous. he is popular among women, as well. however he is very short and a little bit overweight. it's very difficult to say that he's handsome. so the answer is as mark said, to do the best as you can. of course you should be tidy, you should be stylish, you should take care of your physical condition. but at the same time, please remember: for a woman, a man's beauty is something that comes from his inner world, first of all. from his mind when he speaks, and when he takes care of her. that is important. nicely said.
we've talked about age before, for dating. age is a factor, obviously. again, i'll state that a woman in her twenties will have choices too. so age is a factor. but it's only one piece out of the whole equation. your lifestyle, that pertains to very many things. not only where you live, or what your house is like, or what your community is like, and how safe it is. what things do you do? what do you like to do? what activities would you include a wife? she is asking herself an initial question, out of three. that first one is "what chemistry do i have with him?" the second question is: "what would my life be like?"
she's imagining: "what my day is like, who we would meet, how close is the grocery store from where i live?" this is when i encounter some guys apologizing. they might say: "i'm 45 minutes from the closest city." if you're 45 minutes from a great city in america, that's not a problem. she is thinking about what her life could be like with a guy. it's a factor. and with that, comes the last point, and that is income. so irina, could you talk a little bit about what the women are looking for, in terms of income? because it is a factor and we're not going to ignore it. you know, i am always honest about this with our clients, so i try and tell them the truth. i sometimes present it too plainly, and sometimes it's not what they wanted to hear from me.
of course ukrainian women are looking for family happiness. ladies are looking for depth in a relationship, and the ability to share everything with somebody. women really want it, and it's truly a need in women's lives. truly. but at the same time, ladies are looking for a secure life, and i'm not going to hide this from you. the ladies are tired of living in a country, which unfortunately doesn't create conditions for people to earn money. it's not easy to have a normal lifestyle and income level. sometimes there are obstacles to having this. i know a lot of stories. as far as our ukrainian guys, they are not very responsible, even in their world. that is why a woman should take responsibility onto herself.
even with this question, she will take financial responsibility for her family and her children. that is why, of course she would like to meet somebody who can make her life easier, and a little bit more comfortable and convenient. i also told you that when we have a skype interview, that you should be ready. for a woman from abroad, you should understand that when she comes to your place, she won't be employable for a while. she won't be able to help you earn money. so you should think about that. you should evaluate your income and your job. maybe you should change it? i know that your country offers possibilities for people who want to earn money.
they have all opportunities available. that is why a man shouldn't be lazy, of course. he should be a provider, and even in a financial way too. i think that's all, and we shouldn't let go of this understanding. it's true, and it's normal. man is the provider to the home, and a woman is a provider for family life within the house. he tries to put as much into this house as he can and he wants. that's wonderful. listen, it's always been in my heart, in hearts of our guys. we have good hearted guys here.
i've always liked being the provider. i've always liked the fact that the ladies in my life didn't have to work, if she did not want to. of course, we're partnering in life, so we make choices. as you know my story, one time anna had to work for a while, because my business collapsed. she contributed and we did it together. it was a partnership. you have to understand, when we say that the women are looking for a provider. do not misunderstand. some guys think: "oh, the ladies are mainly looking for the best deal, and all these girls really want is the money." guys assume suddenly that because a girl wants a more comfortable life, it's all she wants, and she does not care about the guy.
we're not talking about those type of ladies. we're talking about ladies who want family life, and feel like this would be a wonderful environment, where she would not need to worry about her future. especially since these ladies have no way to financially handle returning to their homes. the women need to know they will be cared for, and provided for, wherever they move to. understand too, that in many of these cultures, whether it's latin america or asia or ukraine, many of the local men don't contribute financially at home. if anything, sometimes they actually become a financial burden. yet the woman are always working, always providing. we had an interview with one of our translators, and she said:
the ukrainian women are like universal soldiers. they have to do it all... the women earn the money, take care of the kids, and the man, and the parents. so it would be nice to have a partner who can lighten some of the load. ladies hope to have it lifted for a while? can there be somebody to take care of part of it? i love the analogy that came in the interviews, as irina just said, that a woman wants to provide the heart and the soul, the nurturing and caring part of the home, and she wants to know that the man can be the walls to protect it. the ladies don't need a lot, guys - so it's not going to cost you a lot of money. it's not so expensive to support a ukrainian or foreign woman.
but it's reassuring for the ladies to know they can come here, and you both won't be starving and struggling. you can bring them into a place where there is stability. hey, my friend mr. jackson was earning $55,000 a year and living in a basic one bedroom apartment in los angeles. she hasn't had to work, because he's always provided. they get along fine, with a simple apartment lifestyle. they're happy and have two kids. she'll love you for who you are. apartment life is not bad. we're not claiming you have to be rich, we're not claiming anything like that. we're just explaining that you're going to partner with her, and lift the load a little bit. now she has a teammate, who wants to help. that will mean so much to her.
i want to comment, and i'm very sure mark will agree with me, since he has a ukrainian wife. having her in your life, you will receive a partner. you will receive a person who will be the first to help you in any difficult situation. she will be the first one to tell you: "dear, we should economize. we should not spend so much money on this or that." she would like to create it at home, and it will be cheaper, or some solution like that. maybe after 3 or 4 months in the united states before receiving her citizenship, she would tell you, she would like to work and help you. you both could have extra money and be able to travel, or spend money on yourselves, or doing something for fun. it's true, honestly it's true. ukrainian women are like this.
it is true, and it's awesome. you guys are going to love it. so, how can we help you, what do we do, as a company? we go through obviously training via skype calls, we'll have training from videos, we'll be there while you're dating, to help you in making the right decisions. your translators that you rely upon, they're going to help you dress for success. they're going to show you, how to present yourself the best way. both in your story, and your body language, and how you make a good impression as your present yourself on your dates, and at the "meet and greet" events. they're going to help you with understanding what the women are thinking,
you'll be told the ladies' opinions of you, whether they are really interested, or not. when to being gifts, and other insights. we do a lot to help. you're not in this alone. we're going to help you win, in all of those areas. and that is only a small part of what we try to do for our clients. i ask them, please, we can do many things. tell us what is in your mind. try to share with us your thoughts, your feelings, and of course we will do our best to help you. we will suggest things to help you win, actually. that is our purpose, and that is our great wish, first of all. and guys, if you end up being in the 20%, that don't find your wife on a tour,
god bless it. you know, to me it's still part of your journey. can you answer the question and say: you know what? i'm going home as an enriched person, for having experienced what i did. in my heart, now i know for certain, that what i'm looking for is there. and i'll remember mark's stories, and other people's stories, and the next time i'm going to return and enjoy the visit even more, and i'm going to keep going, until i find the person i am supposed to meet. because now i know for sure that she is there. so it's not a failure to be part of that 20%. it's just your journey. it's nobody else's journey, it's your journey.
you can be like george or some of the other people, who realize: the one i am looking for, maybe she is not even enrolled yet. but she'll be there when i go again. your destiny awaits you. this is your journey. don't resent others, or compare to anybody else. alright? ok guys, this has been a great talk, and irina i am so grateful for your wisdom and your insights, and all the things you do to help our guys win. it was really a delight. thanks so much for sharing. thank you, mark. you're very welcome.
alright guys, until the next time. this is good stuff, and if you want to join a tour, it's very simple. you go to dreamconnections.com and next to the logo you'll see a link "quest_tours". click on that, and pick the place you want to explore. read all about what is included, and fill out a profile form. we don't want any money up front. we want to get acquainted with you, and make sure it's a fit for you, and you are a fit for us. and then you'll next have a skype call with irina. you'll hear from myself or john henry. we've got a whole program here. it works very well. again, no money up front. we mainly want to ensure that it's a good fit for you.
we'll see if you want to be part of this life changing experience, and if you feel the same calling, some of the other guys have had. alright, have a great night. and we'll all meet again very soon.
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